What is Love?

Jyanla Vanzant, an award winning author, in her book “Acts of faith” writes about Love:

Is this love? Is this love? Is this love? Is this love that I’m feeling?
- Bob Marley

How do you know when you are really in love? First of all, you would not have to ask the question. Love is knowing, it is not a condition or state of mind. When you are loving, you are not doubting, judging or fearing you are in a state of acceptance. You accept yourself first, for who and what you are, and then the person you love without question. You do not want to fix him, change him, control him or help him. You want for the person you love exactly what she wants for herself. When you are in love, you feel vulnerable and you know it is okay. You do not hide your feelings, change them to fix what you think the other person wants, and you do not question what you feel. When you are in love, you give expecting nothing in return, not even love. Love is an inner process between you and yourself that you want to share with someone, everyone. Love is free. If your quest is to own, control, hold on to, protect or take care of someone, they cannot be free and you are not in love. Love is never wrong, seldom right. It just is.

I think love is not what we think it is. Love is not a responsibility for you or for someone else to carry through. It’s not a burden or blame. It just is what it is. We sometimes even take the word “love” for granted because it is always there. We feel the need to say it but we don’t even know what it actually means. And it is true, in love we never change the person we are with and we should not change them anyway.